I feel like I’ve been struggling with friendships ever since I was a teenager. I seem always find myself in a place where I am dumbfounded with how a certain friendship unfolded, because they always started out so great. When I was in high school, I struggled a lot with friends. I kept finding that people didn’t seem to value our friendships in the same way I did. I have found that girls are very quick to act one way to your face and another behind your back, and that never sat well with me. If you aren’t going to be loyal, you might as well be honest.
It seems like every year, when I feel confident in my circle of friends, something happens and the Universe starts to weed out the ones who are no longer serving my higher purpose. It used to really upset me when a friendship would end because suddenly all of the time and energy put into that friendship feels as though it was a waste. It’s never a waste though. Everything happens for a reason and there is a lesson to be learned from every difficult situation. The deeper I get into my spiritual practice, the more I surrender to the Universe and trust that everything I go through will only make me that much wiser, teaching me powerful life lessons.
Friends come and go
This year has been eye opening in more ways than I can count. I have learned many life lessons from the people who have come and gone from my life. I have learned that every ending is really just a new beginning. Once we accept the ebb and flow of life, it is easier to understand that the Universe always has a plan for us, whether we like what is going on or not. I’ve lost friends I never thought. Friends I thought I would grow old with. Shit happens. It’s all how we deal with it, learn from it and grow from it that really matters.
Even though I’ve had friends I absolutely adored walk out of my life, it didn’t deter me from opening up to new people and making room for those who are in alignment with who I am. I pride myself on being a friendly person, someone who always goes out of her way for others. For some reason, that makes some people uncomfortable but hey, that’s their problem not mine 😉 Not everyone is going to appreciate what you have to offer and that’s okay.
You keep shining your light baby girl. Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle.
I’m grateful for all the friends who have come and gone, because they taught me a lot about myself and friendships. I’ve learned a lot about the type of people I want to associate myself with, and the type of people I don’t. I’ve learned that opening up to people gives them the opportunity to hurt you and sometimes they will. Forgive those people. Appreciate what they gave you and move on.
“You know what strength is?
Forgiving a person who wasn’t even sorry”
Even though I’ve had my fair share of friendships blow up in my face, I’ve also been fortunate enough to experience great sisterhood. Like I said, every ending is simply a new beginning. When one friendship ends, it makes room for one even greater. I am eternally grateful for all the magical women who make up my girl gang. They feed my soul on such a deep level. They inspire me, support me, lift me up and keep me grounded. They are radiant beams of light and I am lucky to know, grow and evolve with them. Never take for granted the people who show up for you every damn day and love you unconditionally, despite your flaws. Those are the people worth having around. They are your soul family.
Friends are the family you choose for yourself
Choose them wisely
Cut cords of friendships that are no longer serving you
Don’t force something that is no longer there
LET THAT SHIT GO!
Love and Light,